4 big mistakes when reading a love compatibility
September 2, 2025
We often hear: "Our signs are compatible, so that's a good sign!".
Or, on the contrary: "Our signs don’t go together, so it will never work…".
But in reality, love compatibility in astrology is much more subtle than that.
It is not just a simple comparison of Suns or a quick compatibility chart seen on social media. And this is where the most frequent mistakes appear.
Love compatibility: a matter of soul to soul
It is not just about one or two planets.
Compatibility is a dance between each element of your charts. A complex and vibrant interaction that creates a unique atmosphere in each relationship.
A story of soul to soul, beyond clichés.
Here are 4 major mistakes that are often made when trying to understand a relationship through astrology… and why avoiding them can change everything.
1. Reducing compatibility to your only solar sign
This is the most common and reductive mistake.
The Sun is the basic energy of your personality. But it does not describe your way of loving, your need for security, your sensuality, or how you experience intimacy.
You can be a Leo and have very deep relationships with a Scorpio, while on paper, you are "incompatible". Why? Because your Moons or Venuses communicate well. Because your charts resonate in essential areas.
And then, there are also experiences, wounds, unconscious projections... What the Sun does not show, the rest of the chart can explain.
👉 A relationship is never just about two solar signs. It is experienced between two whole charts.
2. Seeking to find out if "it will work" instead of understanding what the relationship reveals
Most people want a clear answer: "Yes, we are compatible" or "No, it won't work". But astrology does not give a verdict. It gives meaning. It helps you see what this bond awakens, what it invites you to transform, heal, transcend.
Even a bond with a lot of tension can be deeply transformative. Even a smooth relationship can end up stagnating if one party no longer wants to evolve.
Sometimes, what attracts us is precisely what touches a wound or a buried need. This is where the relationship becomes an opportunity for growth, even if it is not always easy.
👉 The question is not: "Are we made for each other?" but "What are we here to experience together?"
3. Not taking the whole chart into account: synastry, houses, and aspects
If your Venuses are in the same sign, they may not be related to other planets (square, opposition, conjunction). The feeling will therefore be very different.
You may have very compatible planets, but in different houses: one wants to build, the other wants to vibrate in the moment.
The houses, the angles, the aspects between your planets are essential nuances. They describe who takes up space, who needs freedom, and how each lives intimacy, commitment, daily life.
And it goes even further: lunar nodes, Chiron, Lilith, and evolutionary axes also play a role in the deep meaning of the bond.
👉 Harmony does not depend on the sign: it depends on the dialogue between the planets, and the context in which they express themselves.
4. Forgetting that compatibility evolves… just like we do
We change.
We grow.
We become aware.
We evolve through our experiences.
A synastry, just like a natal chart, is not fixed. What we couldn't experience at 20 can become a richness at 35.
Astrology is not here to freeze a relationship. It is here to accompany its maturation. And above all… so that everyone finds their rightful place.
Over time, certain secondary planets (like Saturn or Pluto) activate areas of the chart and deeply transform the relationship. That’s why a compatibility reading can also be done at different key moments in your story.
👉 Compatibility does not say whether love will be simple. It says how it can become more conscious.
By understanding these 4 mistakes, you give yourself the chance to read your bond with a broader, clearer, and freer perspective.
And if you want to go further, you can explore a real tailored reading of your love relationship… Astrology can become a precious compass on your path together.
